I’m going to be super honest — sometimes life sucks. As a life coach maybe that shouldn’t be my POV, but from my experience it's the truth. People get thrown curveballs all the time; a devastating loss, a terrifying diagnosis, turmoil at their job, an out of the blue divorce. In the meantime, even though you want to stay in bed with the covers over your head, life continues to move on rapidly and there are truly things that must get done.
So here are 5 things to do when everything sucks:
Recognize that this too will pass. I know when tragedy strikes it feels like life will be like that forever. When my younger sister and brother passed away suddenly it sure felt that way. I remember thinking the devastating feelings I was experiencing would never go away. But they did. Yes, life was never the same, but it wasn’t horrible anymore and in some ways my life became even better. So even though it feels really hard, remember all things pass. Keep going, because you will come out the other side — stronger than before.
Consider how this experience can work for you. Having a real shitty time at work? Yuck, that’s the worst. But what can you do to make things better? Is it an opportunity for you to grow a thicker skin? Or an opportunity for you to learn more skills? Is it time for you to start setting better boundaries and saying the magic word NO? Maybe the time to start considering a new job or career change? Instead of feeling defeated by a hard time, consider how you can make it work for you — not run you over.
Take something off your list. When you are going through a rough time — your energy can be easily depleted. It’s not possible to get it all done. It’s ok to play the “I’m having a rough time card”. (Just be sure to return the favor when someone else needs to bow out for a while.) Ask for help. Don’t push yourself extra hard. Decide what really needs to be done. Now is not the time to take on more.
Get more sleep. You are busier than ever, stretched to the limit and sleep feels like a luxury. But it’s really not. In fact a recent article in Health Magazine said "A lack of sleep can contribute to depression. A good night’s sleep can really help a moody person decrease their anxiety. You get more emotional stability with good sleep." While it sounds counterintuitive, sleep is highly restorative and will give you more energy and focus, which will give you the ability to get things accomplished.
Just breath. And if you can, get some exercise too. You do not need to go to the mountain top or even meditate for 30 minutes a day. Sitting quietly and taking some deep belly breaths (put your hands on your tummy and make sure your tummy moves up and down for each breath) for a few minutes can make a dramatic difference in the way you feel.
When everything feels like it sucks, you are not alone. We all go through crummy times. The important thing to remember is to take one step at a time to the other side.
Have you gone through a hard time and come out the other side? What helpful tips could you share with others? Please let us know in the comments.